Stay Lit at Perspective

Hi, this is just another relationship-based article. It will not bring any change or transformation to the GDP of my Nation. But it might just transform someone’s social attitude towards themselves. Thought of the Day? “How well you handle your work shows your academic knowledge and skills. How well you handle your relationships, shows your upbringing” © Sk Muskan Tabasum Well, a lot of us weigh our value and worth, based on how somebody else treats us. After a relationship ends or a lover cheat on the partner, you would often find the other person screaming at the top of their voice (In Bollywood at least), “ mere pyaar mein akhir aisi kya kami reh gayi thi? ” I have seen the same resonance with my friends, juniors, seniors… etc. When a partner leaves or a relationship does not work, people often blame themselves. They feel- it was their fault, their drawback. It was their limitations that they could not stand up to the expectations of their partner. They feel that they w...

  It’s July 2025, and if somebody would have asked me before this day, what am I afraid of- I would take two hours and say, nothing. There is no specific thing that comes to my mind of which I am afraid of. My mother is cool. My sister is sassy. My brother is my second copy (revised edition). Spiders? Well, I accept the fact that I co-exist with them. Crocodiles? By God’s grace I do not have to meet and greet them in human or animal form regularly. Lions? I live with Leos! But today, I realized that I am afraid of misunderstandings. That is a part of our existence that can drive a person to hate you, to be against you, to become an enemy. In my book Kaliyuga On My Curls, I had added a note that Misunderstandings are like Brown-tinted glasses. It can change how you appear to a person. This note was a hard-earned learning of my growing up. All my life, I have been very annoyed at the lazy-witted people for their quick-judgement on me. Or anybody. I do not find it fair whe...

Perseverance is the cradle of hope, destiny, and fate. Said no one. I am the first to put it like this! Waah, waah… waah, waah. We have been taught from Day 1 of our conscious lives that “ lage raho Munna Bhai ” is how you achieve your ambitions and dreams. The intent of: I would keep going and achieve things, now or tomorrow, tomorrow or day after tomorrow . If you keep going, success is sure to be found. And somehow it is applicable to everything. Whether it is cracking an exam or pursuing your lover (unless you are turned down, of course). People who are focused, ambitious, and know what they want; People who are eager to work in the direction are more likely to find their desired destination sooner or later. It’s just like the Hindi proverb: Bhagwan key ghar, Der hai, Andher nahi. Fine. But, what if the coin of perseverance fell into your lap with the flipside of giving up? Everything has a flipside, right? Even Yin has Yan. Black has white, Roses have thorns. Most people kn...

  Hallmark of Relationships Over the years that I have grown up, one thing that has constantly stolen my attention is how people give up on their relationship rather than communicating. God has given you a mouth and a big one. We literally pity on people who cannot talk- are dumb and deaf- and here we are who would rather live in shadows of assumptions, pretentions and misinterpretations rather than communication. Most of the times, people showcase that they ‘do not care’ of who stays in their life and who does not. Is that really the reality?  I have seen people who first pick up the stance of moving away from someone moving around them with a grumpy face- day and night. They would suddenly become conscious of their words, their manners, their presence and let the other person know that “I do not care about you.” The receiver of bad fate would cry, sulk and pulp in sadness showing their part of “I care of your behaviour and it is hurting me”. Don’t you think that a sord...

Unless you Accept the Change. You will never be able to Become the Change. We often get fiddled when our relationship dynamics change. That destroys us inside out... To lose a close person or realise they are not comfortable being around you anymore. Realising you are not their first priority or they won't choose you over others.  That hurts. Yes.  But we often amplify our pain by considering that this is permanent and things will never be the same anymore. You need to accept the change of behaviour and circumstances that life has brought on your platter. Taste it. if you won't taste it, how would you know whether it is up to your choices or not?  And once you know it doesn't suit you, maybe it's less salty or more bitter.  Add whatever flavour you wish to keep it going on. That new flavour can be departure, a momentary gap in the relationship or a gift to renew the bond.  Unless you accept the change. How do you plan to change what you don't like.  Denial ...