Communication is the Hallmark of Relationships

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Hallmark of Relationships

Over the years that I have grown up, one thing that has constantly stolen my attention is how people give up on their relationship rather than communicating. God has given you a mouth and a big one. We literally pity on people who cannot talk- are dumb and deaf- and here we are who would rather live in shadows of assumptions, pretentions and misinterpretations rather than communication.

Most of the times, people showcase that they ‘do not care’ of who stays in their life and who does not. Is that really the reality? I have seen people who first pick up the stance of moving away from someone moving around them with a grumpy face- day and night. They would suddenly become conscious of their words, their manners, their presence and let the other person know that “I do not care about you.” The receiver of bad fate would cry, sulk and pulp in sadness showing their part of “I care of your behaviour and it is hurting me”.

Don’t you think that a sordid “let’s sit and talk” would rather save both your times and emotions? When are you planning to use your God-gifted vocal cords for communication?

But then, you and your ego…



Incidents in my life have made me believe that no matter how much a person giggles around you, your importance in their life is weighed by how easily you two can make that ‘uncomfortable conversation’. This ‘uncomfortable conversation’ can be a misunderstanding, a jerk in your relationship or friendship or situation-ship. This ‘uncomfortable conversation’ is a long held-back issue which you both know exists within you like a glass wall but nobody has been trying to see through it. It is, as if the wall if more important that your relation. And here is where I feel like the hallmark of your relationship lies.

Whenever my mom purchases gold, not all my mom, every mom, from every race in every different face- when a MOM purchases gold, she won’t bargain about the price of the gold no matter how expensive is it. She must have pushed down the share-market of brinjals and cabbage at the vegetable market right this morning, but when it comes to gold- there lies no bargain. That is an asset and it comes with a hallmark of purity. Mostly ranging from eighteen carat to twenty-four carat. A brinjal at 24.5 INR per kilogram is expensive and less reasonable that ten grams of 24k gold at 88,905.00 INR. This information is taken from Google on 23rd Feb, 2025 (might change later). Focus on the context!

Gold is an asset and it comes with a hallmark of purity. Communication is an asset of your relationship and it is the hallmark of your relationship. If a person who is mad at you, is mad at you and is still choosing to listen to you. Both of you have achieved that stage of your relationship where the glass wall does not matter. Where breaking the glass wall will be more reasonable than choosing not to look and listen to each other. When you are capable of making that uncomfortable conversation, both of you are giving one another a chance to see beyond the mist of misunderstandings and choose to stick to one another. When a person is giving you the opportunity to speak for yourself amidst the whirlwind of wrong assumptions, they are giving you the ultimate form of importance that cannot be compared to buying gifts and bringing flowers.

Being capable of communication when someone can barely tolerate you is like they value your side of the story. Maybe, you have been misjudged and wrongly portrayed to them. Maybe you have no idea of what they are told about you. Maybe they were brainwashed about you. Maybe you did something, and they misconstrued your intentions. Miscommunication comes in manifold forms and it is the bridge of communication that connects two people amidst all satanic glances. Amidst the evil eye.


A relationship may have been flourishing and suddenly all cords went down. You are sad about it. They won’t come back. They would rather live in their steamy mist, blinded and do not give you a opening to talk to. We all are adults, you cannot just chain someone on the chair and make them listen to you. If you have to- it is not worth it.

A relationship had been flourishing and something went wrong. They are mad at you, you do not know how to approach them and you request them for a space, whenever they are comfortable. They give you. Smile, because- this is where you need to know that out of the hundred people you have on your follower lists, you are holding a relationship that is pure gold with the recognized hallmark.

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