Stay Lit at Perspective

 So, someone asked me, what would you choose between love and commitment? And I asked, Does not Love and Commitment go hand in hand? You should never commit to someone; you are not in love with- that is like cheating on to yourself. When you commit to someone you don’t love, who are you fooling other than yourself. When you say that I love you, and I cannot live without you to someone you definitely don’t love and can evidently live without- Who did you fool? We are fools to think that people cheat on others. Committing to someone you do not actually love is the first step to self-betrayal. Everything that you do later is just an add-on cheese to that layer of self-betrayal. However, when you are in love and you are committed. You need to keep loving that person because we don’t make commitments to the other person. A commitment is a promise you made not just to your beloved, but also to yourself. Backing out is like breaking a promise you made to yourself. Once you are com...

  Hallmark of Relationships Over the years that I have grown up, one thing that has constantly stolen my attention is how people give up on their relationship rather than communicating. God has given you a mouth and a big one. We literally pity on people who cannot talk- are dumb and deaf- and here we are who would rather live in shadows of assumptions, pretentions and misinterpretations rather than communication. Most of the times, people showcase that they ‘do not care’ of who stays in their life and who does not. Is that really the reality?  I have seen people who first pick up the stance of moving away from someone moving around them with a grumpy face- day and night. They would suddenly become conscious of their words, their manners, their presence and let the other person know that “I do not care about you.” The receiver of bad fate would cry, sulk and pulp in sadness showing their part of “I care of your behaviour and it is hurting me”. Don’t you think that a sord...

Unless you Accept the Change. You will never be able to Become the Change. We often get fiddled when our relationship dynamics change. That destroys us inside out... To lose a close person or realise they are not comfortable being around you anymore. Realising you are not their first priority or they won't choose you over others.  That hurts. Yes.  But we often amplify our pain by considering that this is permanent and things will never be the same anymore. You need to accept the change of behaviour and circumstances that life has brought on your platter. Taste it. if you won't taste it, how would you know whether it is up to your choices or not?  And once you know it doesn't suit you, maybe it's less salty or more bitter.  Add whatever flavour you wish to keep it going on. That new flavour can be departure, a momentary gap in the relationship or a gift to renew the bond.  Unless you accept the change. How do you plan to change what you don't like.  Denial ...