Not all Dots have to be Good Dots!
A very close friend of mine keeps saying, "I'll never hurt her (his girlfriend, of course); I'll never bring tears to her eyes, never cause her pain..." blah, blah, blah. Is that even real? Yes it is. But is it practical? Noooo, please. A very surreal mistake we keep making in our precious bonds, is we expect way too much of ourselves, more than the other person expects from us. Then, we inevitably increase their hopes. And then we fail to keep those hopes alive. And then curse ourselves. And then runaway from that relationship! Hang on dude... Why??? Not because you are a failure, no. But you failed. You failed at being successful at something which was meant to collapse. When you tie close knots with someone, it is obvious that at times the knot will cause strain, get stretched and push and pull you. That doesn't signal that you need to break that attachment. In every adventure of life, we collapse when our hopes collapse. When the other person is hurt, we tr...