Stay Lit at Perspective

 So, someone asked me, what would you choose between love and commitment? And I asked, Does not Love and Commitment go hand in hand? You should never commit to someone; you are not in love with- that is like cheating on to yourself. When you commit to someone you don’t love, who are you fooling other than yourself. When you say that I love you, and I cannot live without you to someone you definitely don’t love and can evidently live without- Who did you fool? We are fools to think that people cheat on others. Committing to someone you do not actually love is the first step to self-betrayal. Everything that you do later is just an add-on cheese to that layer of self-betrayal. However, when you are in love and you are committed. You need to keep loving that person because we don’t make commitments to the other person. A commitment is a promise you made not just to your beloved, but also to yourself. Backing out is like breaking a promise you made to yourself. Once you are com...

Perseverance is the cradle of hope, destiny, and fate. Said no one. I am the first to put it like this! Waah, waah… waah, waah. We have been taught from Day 1 of our conscious lives that “ lage raho Munna Bhai ” is how you achieve your ambitions and dreams. The intent of: I would keep going and achieve things, now or tomorrow, tomorrow or day after tomorrow . If you keep going, success is sure to be found. And somehow it is applicable to everything. Whether it is cracking an exam or pursuing your lover (unless you are turned down, of course). People who are focused, ambitious, and know what they want; People who are eager to work in the direction are more likely to find their desired destination sooner or later. It’s just like the Hindi proverb: Bhagwan key ghar, Der hai, Andher nahi. Fine. But, what if the coin of perseverance fell into your lap with the flipside of giving up? Everything has a flipside, right? Even Yin has Yan. Black has white, Roses have thorns. Most people kn...

Unless you Accept the Change. You will never be able to Become the Change. We often get fiddled when our relationship dynamics change. That destroys us inside out... To lose a close person or realise they are not comfortable being around you anymore. Realising you are not their first priority or they won't choose you over others.  That hurts. Yes.  But we often amplify our pain by considering that this is permanent and things will never be the same anymore. You need to accept the change of behaviour and circumstances that life has brought on your platter. Taste it. if you won't taste it, how would you know whether it is up to your choices or not?  And once you know it doesn't suit you, maybe it's less salty or more bitter.  Add whatever flavour you wish to keep it going on. That new flavour can be departure, a momentary gap in the relationship or a gift to renew the bond.  Unless you accept the change. How do you plan to change what you don't like.  Denial ...