Error 609 Found: Love and Commitment Myths

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 So, someone asked me, what would you choose between love and commitment?

And I asked, Does not Love and Commitment go hand in hand?

You should never commit to someone; you are not in love with- that is like cheating on to yourself. When you commit to someone you don’t love, who are you fooling other than yourself. When you say that I love you, and I cannot live without you to someone you definitely don’t love and can evidently live without- Who did you fool?

We are fools to think that people cheat on others. Committing to someone you do not actually love is the first step to self-betrayal. Everything that you do later is just an add-on cheese to that layer of self-betrayal.

However, when you are in love and you are committed. You need to keep loving that person because we don’t make commitments to the other person. A commitment is a promise you made not just to your beloved, but also to yourself. Backing out is like breaking a promise you made to yourself. Once you are committed, there should be no ifs and buts- there should be no second-guessing or looking for more fish in the sea. Love is an emotion that leads you to a promise called commitment. Emotions may fade away- promises are meant to remind you of that emotion and keep it ever-lasting.

Don’t you think too that love and commitment go hand in hand?


P.S: So, when it comes to me, I would never give a vow or accept my love to a person: I am not in love with. And, once I am in love- I would not like to care if there is something or someone better around. Even if I meet a person who might vibe with me a lot more than my partner- I would rather call him my friend or confidante. Not Love. 
I cannot be making the same promises to a 700 people. Should I? 

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