Stay Lit at Perspective

New relationships often fill flowers and butterflies in the cup. The lesser you know a person, the more interesting they appear. And once you know them, you know them. But what does it really take to know a person. Because even after spending a lifetime with someone you might feel, you still don’t know them. And sometimes it just sounds a click. The elements which brings a person close to you is ‘who they are’. And that which either keeps them in your life or drifts you two apart is ‘how they are’. And this might sound confusing. But honestly, it’s simpler than you think. The ‘who’ part in a person includes the things that they choose and refuse, their likes and dislikes. The elements that appear on the surface right when you meet them. Your friend is kind, your spouse is generous, they love hearing music, they like rides, she helps poor people, he enjoys socializing. The ‘who’ of a person is what attracts or repels you with them. When you two think that you share a similar vibe, i...

We all know a few people in our world, who always know what somebody meant, and what someone intended.  They are very confident about it. So confident that they often overlook what somebody said and what someone meant. For them, the moment you had said the first five words of a sentence, they had known the entire conversation. Alongwith why you said and how you said things. And in case, they are demi-gods they'll judge your previous actions and predict your future as well.  This confidence is self destructive.  You can be right. But not all the time. And being unable to accept this is self destructive. Now a person can make you feel a 'certain way'. That 'certain way' you felt might not be the 'approached way'. And that's fine. Feelings do not have grammar or parameters. I always believe this. Feelings are not calculative. But then when you unhear the other person and impose your feelings as a judgement, that is self destructive.  How? The other person m...