Winning doesn't make you a Demi God

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We all know a few people in our world, who always know what somebody meant, and what someone intended. 
They are very confident about it. So confident that they often overlook what somebody said and what someone meant.

For them, the moment you had said the first five words of a sentence, they had known the entire conversation. Alongwith why you said and how you said things. And in case, they are demi-gods they'll judge your previous actions and predict your future as well. 

This confidence is self destructive. 

You can be right. But not all the time. And being unable to accept this is self destructive. Now a person can make you feel a 'certain way'. That 'certain way' you felt might not be the 'approached way'. And that's fine. Feelings do not have grammar or parameters. I always believe this. Feelings are not calculative. But then when you unhear the other person and impose your feelings as a judgement, that is self destructive. 
How?

The other person might give in. They might lift their hands above and white flag to your comfort. But when you had won the argument, you have lost the benefit of perspective. On such repetitive incidents, to that person, you might end up presenting yourself in the wrong light. And the next time you two are 'talking' about a third person, your perspective will lose the benefit of doubt. 

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