Error 609 Found: Benefit of Misunderstandings

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 It’s July 2025, and if somebody would have asked me before this day, what am I afraid of- I would take two hours and say, nothing.

There is no specific thing that comes to my mind of which I am afraid of. My mother is cool. My sister is sassy. My brother is my second copy (revised edition).

Spiders? Well, I accept the fact that I co-exist with them. Crocodiles? By God’s grace I do not have to meet and greet them in human or animal form regularly.
Lions? I live with Leos!

But today, I realized that I am afraid of misunderstandings. That is a part of our existence that can drive a person to hate you, to be against you, to become an enemy. In my book Kaliyuga On My Curls, I had added a note that

Misunderstandings are like Brown-tinted glasses.
It can change how you appear to a person.

This note was a hard-earned learning of my growing up. All my life, I have been very annoyed at the lazy-witted people for their quick-judgement on me. Or anybody. I do not find it fair when a person chooses to adopt a false version of your statements in their head, which is rather true to them. It can happen, you said something, they took it otherwise- war, verbal battle and so on…

But you tried to explain it to them. This is the part which hurts. It hurts when they would not take your version of the statement into account and choose to go on blabbing. Blabbing something that you never meant.

Misunderstandings have haunted me my whole life. I can’t stand people who don’t give others the benefit of doubt, who won’t acknowledge any other version of the story, who would keep living on something that never happened. Misconceptions are not a big deal. Happens. But you were not given the space to clarify yourself. You were supposed to apologize for their wrong POV. How is that fair?

Misunderstandings are not fair.

But misunderstandings don’t ruin relationships in a single day.

Think about a glass.

Full of water. And you add some oil on it. Water and oil are inseparable now. Let aside distillation, water would be beneath the oil, and no matter how small that drop of oil was, it would spread and stay at the surface of the glass of water.

But that water is visible, still. 

Until, no dust has settled on that oily surface. Once tiny dust particles start settling on the oily surface, the water beneath the glass will look unsightly and the water that was clean a few minutes ago, would become unfit, unhealthy, unhygienic.





In a relationship, misunderstandings do not play the role of the dust. They play the role of the Oil.

If oil doesn’t get removed, dust would keep settling on the surface of the water, it would keep ruining your vision, it would keep destroying beautiful pictures and friendships.

It’s July 2025, and if somebody would ask me, what am I afraid of- I would say, you know.

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