Why Moving Ahead is more important than Moving On.

 

It is like a ‘backspace’ and a ‘cancel’ option through online transactions. Suppose you are shopping four or five items on Myntra, and suddenly you feel the need to evaluate your selections. It can be the size of a t-shirt. It can be the quantity of a product. Or you might wish to check more additional vouchers over your shopping items. But over all these various possibilities you will not cancel the entire transaction and reselect items from the wish list to the shopping bag. (This is not a brand endorsement. So buyers from different online sites, please focus!)
It is a simple game. All you need to do is a press the ‘Go Back’ arrow and make the needful changes. So is Life.

Moving Ahead in life means getting rid of the clutter which life has brought with itself. Perhaps you are experiencing conflict in a certain areas of your life. Your choices are not in alignment with the effects you had considered. You are reconsidering your opinions about a person, or a business deal, or certain situation. But that doesn’t mean you have been spiralling down wrong from the beginning. A grime has settled over the picture, you just need to swipe the shields clear.

The source of conflict in a relationship rises with disharmony of expectations and actions. Both need not go hand in hand. They are like the two sides of the river. They’ll never meet at a point. What keeps the two sides of the river connected is a boat. A vessel that can keep the life between the two sides connected. That boat is called Communication.

But then over time this communication begins leaking. With holes of- secrets, the so called important ‘privacy’ and the urge to escape leaving behind unsettled arguments. These pile up to a point where life jackets like counselling fail to help.

Few relationships do come to a point where expecting any former sweetness is a self-destructive idea. It is impossible. There are certain scenarios which won’t ever let you heal. You will never know how many lies, how many incomplete conversations, how many misunderstandings have replaced the blocks of your healthy and happy relationship. It indeed is ‘Over’.

So what to do now?
Moving On, you’d say. But moving on from a relationship holds the threat of erasing everything related to it. The good memories too. Remember that the person with whom it has went all wrong is also the same person who made you believe in something very beautiful. That entire person is not someone from whom you are running away. But a side of them, a part of them which does not fit into your life. That part can be easy going. That part can be toxic. It doesn’t matter. What doesn’t fit you, should be left out, true. But rethink…

Do you really cancel an entire shopping list just because you dropped in something you later considered was not required? No, you just keep that aside. And with that, you review the list, and make further more changes too. That is called Moving Ahead.

With the mentality of moving ahead with the problems will save a lottttttt of relationships from the brink to sink. Not every relation in life can be removed. We all will agree to that. When you move ahead, you look forward. You look beyond the flaws of a person. You focus more on qualities which have actually brought this person so near to your life and heart. The arguments, the quarrels, the disagreements all of them are seasonal. What is more permanent are the qualities which you really love about your friend, your spouse, your parents, your children.

When you move ahead from the black clouds, clearer skies wait.
When you move on from the black clouds, you leave the clearer skies behind as well.