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Communication is the Hallmark of Relationships

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  Hallmark of Relationships Over the years that I have grown up, one thing that has constantly stolen my attention is how people give up on their relationship rather than communicating. God has given you a mouth and a big one. We literally pity on people who cannot talk- are dumb and deaf- and here we are who would rather live in shadows of assumptions, pretentions and misinterpretations rather than communication. Most of the times, people showcase that they ‘do not care’ of who stays in their life and who does not. Is that really the reality?  I have seen people who first pick up the stance of moving away from someone moving around them with a grumpy face- day and night. They would suddenly become conscious of their words, their manners, their presence and let the other person know that “I do not care about you.” The receiver of bad fate would cry, sulk and pulp in sadness showing their part of “I care of your behaviour and it is hurting me”. Don’t you think that a sord...

Are you Seeing the World with a One-Sided Vision?

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What happens when you see the world with one eye? I am not talking about the third eye. We fail at recognizing people and their real selves with both eyes. The third eye can’t save us in any manner. But then, what happens when you see the world with just one eye open? Like just one eye open. Physics has suggested. Primary class physics. Not alpha, beta, gamma physics. Primary physics. It has suggested that looking at things with one eye has a limited harm. It just causes the ‘loss of binoucular vision’ and your sense and ‘depth of perception’ gets compromised. Although, I have tried once judging myself, what happens when I look at one eye open. The most part that I want to see is visible. I can see at my front, I can see where I am walking and going. However, one of the sides goes missing. I can handle that unless I have to ‘interpret the scene’ and not ‘just’ look at it. Making decisions and walking on the pavement of one-sided stories can lead you straight to a pothole. Watchin...

Accept the Change

Unless you Accept the Change. You will never be able to Become the Change. We often get fiddled when our relationship dynamics change. That destroys us inside out... To lose a close person or realise they are not comfortable being around you anymore. Realising you are not their first priority or they won't choose you over others.  That hurts. Yes.  But we often amplify our pain by considering that this is permanent and things will never be the same anymore. You need to accept the change of behaviour and circumstances that life has brought on your platter. Taste it. if you won't taste it, how would you know whether it is up to your choices or not?  And once you know it doesn't suit you, maybe it's less salty or more bitter.  Add whatever flavour you wish to keep it going on. That new flavour can be departure, a momentary gap in the relationship or a gift to renew the bond.  Unless you accept the change. How do you plan to change what you don't like.  Denial ...